Comments on: lost & found

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 19:22:02 +0000

Alie, you and your family are in my prayers. I’ve never met you but I think of you daily. I work at the donor network and we spoke on the phone a few times. You touched my heart with your grace and strength. Grieving for Amelia is an important thing to do. Talking to you changed my life and felt like a holy experience. I feel honored and humbled to be able to hold your daughter in my heart. Hang in there. xo

By: Bea

Bea — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 18:47:52 +0000

Hi. My name is Beatrice. I have been reading your blog for a while. This post just breaks my heart because I have been in your shoes and I have gone through a lot of the same emotions…You see, 15 months ago, today, I gave birth to a little baby boy named Oliver. We found out at our 20 week ultrasound that he had a fatal birth defect called Potter’s syndrome and he was not going to live long after birth. It was so hard to go through every day of the pregnancy, knowing that he was going to die….I tried to get ready to meet him. I never realized how hard it would be after I had him…. My baby lived for a little over an hour. The pain was so excruciating. My whole body and soul ached for my baby. I just want to reassure you that the pain will lessen with time, it will get easier to bear. I know I will see him again, that he is ours forever. Just know what I am praying for you. I know how hard the first months are after you lose a baby…Big hug.

By: tammy

tammy — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 04:53:13 +0000

Alie, how can you not grieve for what is lost? I cry again as I grieve with you but you must never forget that those opportunities to hold Amelia and enjoy experiencing her growing up are not lost, only postponed. Think of the joy Tyler’s mom must feel getting to spend time with her in heaven when she didn’t have the opportunity to finish raising her own children. You and I both know you will have the opportunity someday to hold Amelia in your arms and fix her beautiful white, blond hair. by the way, why do your children allways have so much hair? We are all so jealous! Hang in there, I love you! Mom